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Poems About Abuse

https://allpoetry.com/Coco_Chanel#t_main   Never Give Up How do I explain something I can’t understand? How do I explain that he hurt me in a way no one else can? How do I explain the scars that run so deep? How do I explain that they’re not something you can even feel or see?How I explain I… Continue reading Poems About Abuse

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Don’t Stop Believing

#Speak

As you may recall from my previous blog post, my university hosted an It’s On Us rally this past week to raise awareness about domestic and sexual violence on college campuses. The afternoon was filled with performances and speeches by student activists, including a powerful performance by the students of Spoken Word, who used to poetry to recite facts and statistics regarding violence on campus. A few exceptionally courageous survivors also shared their stories in front of the entire audience. Other survivors, many of whom had never met before, shared phone numbers and e-mail addresses, offering their support to each other. And then of course, there was Joe Biden.

When I heard that Joe Biden would be speaking, I expected he would give a short cookie cutter speech that would give him just enough publicity but not really mean much to the students in the audience. However, unlike most other…

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Hey Abusers!

"Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love,… Continue reading Hey Abusers!

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It’s tough out there, so please support Survivors

 

It is not only validating, but incredibly healing to read about the journey of other survivors.

“A victim of domestic abuse will not leave until the idea of staying is scarier than the idea of leaving.” I finally reached this point another too long ago. I’m officially a survivor now.

Freedom Within: My Journey through Domestic Violence & PTSD

Often, as I work with Survivors of Domestic Abuse, I hear how the life after abuse is much harder than living with the abuse. It’s sort of ironic to say that, but as a Survivor myself I do agree with that statement. For someone who has never lived with abuse you may ask, “How is that possible?” “Wouldn’t a life free of abuse be easier as you wouldn’t be abused?” Good question and you would think that would be the case, but in many ways it is not. Let me explain.

When you are in an abusive relationship, over time the abuse becomes familiar. Yes it is horrible but it is what you know. When I was in my abusive marriage the abuse was a terrible thing to endure, but it had become my normal. When someone would suggest leaving I became scared. I had lived so long in an…

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Why include personal notes?

Because they are meaningless.  Because they aren't real. Because their intent was only to manipulate. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/understanding-narcissism/201708/why-do-narcissists-abuse-those-they-love?amp resonates a great deal.  In short, they enjoy the torture. "When people have a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, two things interact to predispose them to be abusive: 1. They are low on emotional empathy. Emotional empathy is the capacity to feel what another… Continue reading Why include personal notes?

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To Every Girl Who Has Ever Lost Herself To A Toxic Man Posted by Alex Jean Ecton

🔊 Listen to Post Some days I wonder if I will ever fully be myself again, and unfortunately, those days seem to be happening more than I would like to admit. Yes, relationships take a lot of work but relationships are supposed to be fun. When you are with the right person, relationships are simple. Nobody… Continue reading To Every Girl Who Has Ever Lost Herself To A Toxic Man Posted by Alex Jean Ecton

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Great read reminding us why no contact is so important.

Before we move on from the topic of Narcissists, let’s discuss the Minimal/Low Contact and No Contact Rules for dealing with them. Of course, any option you choose in dealing with the Narcissists in your life is up to you. I’m not telling you what to do at all. (Mostly because I despise when anyone […]… Continue reading Great read reminding us why no contact is so important.

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What They Don’t Know

 

These words resonate. It’s telepathy:)

A Broken Blue Sky

prison

The pressure pushes deep
and deeper still
like a vice upon my soul

Clouds that won’t lift
stuck in sadness
overshadowing everything

External silence is deafening
while the internal voices
are relentless and harsh
and will not end

Everyone says
you need to love yourself
but this is a nightmare
of self hatred
an abandoning of self
mimicking the life I’ve lived
the only one I’ve ever known

They say don’t cry
it will get better
but they don’t know
for every tear they see
there are millions more
locked up inside of me

Every cell fights
to eat its own flesh
like a monster
I thought only wanted to scare me
but no it wants to destroy me

Isolation is all that is known
alone in the darkness
and in the light of day
a poverty of soul

The forest is on fire
but no one notices
the fire…

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The End.

I said no more so he sent "Grateful Emails." I responded, "you always write beautifully." And the devaluing started.  This time though, I didn't go back. "Once a person is completely broken down, they will abuse them until they have nothing left to give or offer, then leave. They will then return when their target… Continue reading The End.

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Murder: Death By Covert Abuse – Frightening when I think he almost succeeded.

Murder: Death By Covert Abuse Updated on February 8, 2017 Sparkster Publishing   more Marc Hubs - Writer/Researcher on Mind, Science & Conspiracy. Author of Know Your Enemy: Reflections Of NPD. Pernicious Abuse It goes unrecognized but it exists. It exists on an extremely covert level. It happens behind the scenes without anyone even being aware… Continue reading Murder: Death By Covert Abuse – Frightening when I think he almost succeeded.