Careful…You don’t want to end up like me.

I’m writing this because he violently assaulted me by throwing/slamming me into a wall that resulted in severe damages that I still suffer from, almost two years after the incident. I’m not a jilted lover nor unstable – I’m a survivor of a 5.5 years of emotional abuse, and a single episode of a violent attack – Threats and throwing things were a norm.

He’s charming and good looking and smart and knows all the right things to say in the beginning.  He’ll send you pictures of his rides and his bikes and random things that catches his eye telling you he wished you were there to share it with. He will make plans with you for adventurous travel and in the beginning will be proactive in planning dates.  He’ll make you feel you’re the only one and that he’s grateful for your support as he endures my wrath (see pic below of what he said about the ex. See the pattern.)  He will tell you lie after lie and and make you feel special.  He will pretend to have insight on himself when he tells you how he failed us or what he did wrong in his marriage, but don’t let that fool you because that will only be until he receives enough validation from you to feel regulated about himself.  He isn’t capable at looking inward. He will tell you stupid little lies and huge lies.  He will lie about his kids – He will omit important facts because he doesn’t believe omissions are lies. He will make you feel like you are the only one until you least expect it and then he’ll hit you where it hurts.  Then he will ignore you because you dared to confront him and had the audacity to question him. He’ll make you feel as though you will lose him if you don’t fall in line. And, before you know it, it will be you wondering where the real you went – what happened to the confident happy person you once knew…where did she disappear to.

I don’t have any warm feelings about his ex, but she did warn me.  At first, I thought she was crazy and that I was special and therefore he wasn’t going to be that way with me.  THE JOKE WAS ON ME!!!  He is everything she said he was.  An asshole, disconnected, detached and lacked judgment. I don’t know when you started to see him but we were still “trying” until I said no more on August 5, yet he sent grateful emails and wanted to take me to my doc appointment and have coffee and go see a concert.  He kept it up and then poof! He said he was blocking me. He didn’t have the balls to tell me he was stopping paying for the medical bills he was responsible for.

If you get in touch know I’ll show you copies of our account, my medical records and  anything else you want because I’m not lying. What he did to me is only caused by head trauma so he’s lying to you about restraining me.  He’s a liar. And if he did it once he’ll do it again. I’m afraid for you because I never knew someone could take control of my mind without my knowing it.  He made me feel I was different which I can bet he’s doing with you.  And you will be the one he falls in love with, will want share everything he sees with and live in a shack with.  Those were things he told me that and none of it was real.   He’s a grown man without a soul, doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong and doesn’t have a true north.  He will DESTROY you so walk before you lose yourself.  If you need validation to what your gut is saying, feel free and reach out – I will share whatever you want so you can rest easy that what you’ve seen or felt isn’t your imagination.  He is very skilled at gaslighting because he is so soft spoken and quiet. He is all of that AND his venom will kill you.

I am sincerely scared for you because I know, like me, you are a wonderful person full of love and warmth. He didn’t have that so he gravitates towards us but treats us like his mother treated him.  Cold and never enough.

Take care,


See the pattern…Everyone in his life is unstable once he gets done with them. You’re next….


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