Bad Days, Gaslighting, My Story

My Story.

This is my story.  I am still feeling out what I want to do with the blog and non profit.  I am still purging and needing to out all of his lies because he has no shame and he is still trying to pour salt over my wounds so I’m going to fight back with the truth.

This site began as my way to stop the man I was with for 5.5 years to leave me alone.  I thought only if I could expose the games he plays underneath the facade, I will be able to heal in peace. That’s not how it worked out because the more I exposed him the more he lied and the higher the anti went.  So, I decided to stop trying to prove he’s a monster because I know he’s a monster, and I know truth will eventually prevail and therefore what I am going to do is focus on bringing awareness to how society treats victims of domestic abuse by way of sharing my experience.  From his friends, my friends to the justice system to his lawyers, and anyone in between, I will share how each represent a portion of society that victimizes the survivors of abuse all over again.  I am hoping that others will be encouraged to share their story without fear because that is the only way we are going to be able to bring about change.

Vincent Beggs is the man who violently assaulted me on December 21, 2016.  He was arrested for assault and pleaded the case to destruction of property because I was a mess emotionally. I was traumatized and was unable to gather emails and other evidence to the CommonWealth Attorney’s office to prove his guilt.  Plus, he got to me when he broke the no contact order and showed up at a coffee shop near my doctor’s office with flowers and managed to fool me into believing he cared.  As a result of his plea agreement he was placed on probation for one year and had to take anger management courses, which in my opinion did nothing for him beside empower him to be more emotionally abusive.

There was a no contact order in place from January 10, 2017 – It was supposed to be permanent, but he managed to talk me into having it removed from his plea agreement by dangling the fact that he was going to be paying for my medical bills.  The wall next to the door is where he threw me and where I hit my head so hard that it destroyed my inner ear. The email is to a designer buying me jewelry for my birthday.  Card is for my birthday he gave to me over dinner at the Majestic in Alexandria, VA .  The pic of his back was taken February 4 when we spent the night together and the email is from December 4, 2017 of him trying to explain he’s not tracking me. The screenshots of his web site is just that…Oh yes, not only did I he make me a blog but a spotify playlist.  He fooled me over and over and over and over again!

This is how he talks to me when no one is watching. This is Not Normal Behavior and it scares me.

As part of his plea he was suppose to have no contact with me, but used paying for my medical bills which are enormous and talked me into asking the CA to remove the provision.

As a result of the assault  I have cognitive deficits which I may never recover from,  PTSD and permanent damage to my inner ear that have robbed me from living a healthy and normal life.  Knowing we were going to be litigating for damages he continues to try and play with my heart and mind.  He created a blog. He created Spotify playlists after he filed a bogus complaint with the magistrate making false accusations. He showed up at a restaurant I go to and talked to my friend for hours telling him about his travel plans to Vegas.  And when none of that worked he has turned to using the court system to try and gain the upper hand – He has painted me as a jilted lover and people believe him because that’s how good of a con he is.  Nobody wants to believe this monster threw me so hard that it destroyed a part of my inner ear that I am still in therapy for – I have been told I may never be able to drive at night or ride a bike.  How do you stop feeling disgusted with the man that has caused so much pain in your life.  He scares me.  He simply scares me because he comes across like such a nice guy, but if you pay attention to what he says you will notice none of his stories are consistent.

He will tell you as you’ll hear on the tapes I had the problems that I still do today, but that is a lie – I never had the problems I had before until after the attack.  It turned out Angela Plemmons De Ramos a woman who works with children, last I heard, in Emmett Idaho, trying to intimidate me by threatening to publicly shame me (see below) if I don’t remove the blog.  He made this revelation during a court hearing when he spoke about a conversation I had with the sender of the email who I assumed to be him.

I keep thinking, what sort of a deranged mind would go as far as he did to file a complaint against me, not show up …

Why are you doing all of this? You are wasting your time and energy on negativity and vindictiveness. Negativity negatively rewires the brain. This is time and energy that would be better spent channeling it into positives, such as making memories for and spending quality time with &&&&&&, and Dave. Furthermore, don’t you think it would feel really good to look in the mirror and know that the person who you see looking back at you is telling the truth not only to others, but also being honest with herself, rather than fabricating false scenarios and repeating nearly thirty year old patterns and habits?  I can’t imagine that the outcome will be in your favor. In fact, I’m quite surprised that you don’t already have a defamation and libel suit against you for your continuous posts, each of which equates to a separate charge. Do you think that that anyone is going to believe your bogus claims that Vince did vestibular damage, when everyone knows that it it is linked to &&&&, as well as @@@@@, and not to mention that auto-immune illnesses typically are co-morbid with other auto-immune illnesses? Who do you think you are fooling?  At some point we all have to be honest with ourselves and own the wrongs that we have done in order to truly heal. When will your time be? I am asking you to please remove any and all wrongful posts and to do the right thing. You don’t see any of Vince’s associates partaking in public shaming. They certainly could, and you would deserve it. However, they choose the high road. I would suggest that you choose to do the same. May God give you the strength to release the bitterness, redirect, and endure your broken heart as it mends.

Vincent Beggs has done everything in his power to silence me including lie to the authorities and filing bogus reports.  His own texts and emails will tell the story.  While he defames me to my friends and possible employers, he covertly creates a blog or spotify as a way to communicate.  The police can’t do anything so therefore I am here.  Talking about the nightmare he has put me through makes me feel safe and that I am not alone.

I am not here because I am not a vindictive or a scorned lover.   I’m here to feel safe and because I am tired of people expecting me to not talk about the abuse.  I am here because women are abused a second time around by society and it needs to change and the only way that it will is that we stop being ashamed and openly talk about what we went through.  I’m tired of him telling his version of the story and defaming me while he privately does things to continue the traumatization.

I’m reaching out to every other woman who has been through this in hope that together we can bring upon change.

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