Kindness will get you kindness is what he use to say to me.  What he really meant was you do and say as I do and I won’t hurt you.  You do as I say and I won’t go after you.  I didn’t listen.  In not listening I am on my way to finding myself again.  I have found my sanity, my integrity, and my self worth is starting to come back.  He nor anyone else has the right to bully, humiliate and defame.  Human decency isn’t a choice. You either have it or you don’t.  And his and his ex wife’s actions have spoken louder than words could ever…and truth always prevails…